Volume 08 Issue 02 February 2025
1Prasetyo Alif Soeprawiro, 2Suryanto, 3Dyan Evita Santi
1,3Universitas 17 Agustus 1945 Surabaya
2Universitas Airlangga
DOI : https://doi.org/10.47191/ijsshr/v8-i2-45Google Scholar Download Pdf
ABSTRACT
This study aims to examine the role of relationship satisfaction as a mediator in the effect of prosocial lying on the propensity towards infidelity. The research sample consisted of 416 respondents who are currently in marital relationships and are either residing in Surabaya or frequently engaged in activities in Surabaya. Data were collected through self-report questionnaires measuring the levels of prosocial lying, relationship satisfaction, and propensity towards infidelity. The results of the analysis indicate that prosocial lying has a positive influence on the propensity towards infidelity, meaning the higher the level of prosocial lying, the higher the tendency to engage in infidelity. Furthermore, relationship satisfaction is proven to be a significant partial mediator in this research model. Prosocial lying was found to have a negative influence on relationship satisfaction, which ultimately leads to an increase in the propensity towards infidelity.
KEYWORDS:Infidelity, propensity towards infidelity, relationship satisfaction, prosocial lying
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